Do you know what things in life make you happy? More often than not, if we sit and think about that question, we often start to wonder what “happiness” really is…But that’s a different blog post.
Two important factors in our happiness are our own self-esteem and our relationships.
The Happiness Survey
Measuring your happiness is tough, but that was something the College of Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy and Top Sante magazine attempted to do with a jointly held “happiness survey”. The results showed that there are many influences on our happiness, but ultimately, we feel how we think. So, when unpleasant things happen or when we experience frustration and difficulty, we have two sets of beliefs about them. Healthy or rational beliefs about the unpleasant things provoke sadness, annoyance or even regret, while unhealthy ones provoke unhealthy negative feelings anxiety, depression, guilt hurt etc.
You can read more on the Happiness survey here:
Our emotional state can have a big impact on our relationships, if your thoughts or beliefs about your partner are unhealthy, then your relationship will become unhealthy too. When it comes to relationships, we must remember that we are ultimately responsible for our own thoughts, feelings, our behaviours and the types of relationships we tolerate and or enjoy.
You can read more about investing in your relationships here: http://thehypnotherapyteam.wordpress.com/2012/02/01/investing-in-your-relationships/
There are many factors that play a part in our own self-esteem. In a previous blog post we explored these in more detail, see our post http://thehypnotherapyteam.wordpress.com/2011/09/23/all-about-self-esteem/
Our own self-esteem can have a positive impact on other aspects of our lives, such as our relationships and happiness, but a low self-esteem can have equally as powerful negative impact on these areas of our lives.
Throughout life we all need to use different tools to take control and deal with self-esteem issues. This can be hard, especially if you are the type of person who struggles with low self-esteem. The College of Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy is running a Master Class in dealing with self-esteem issues (the previous master class was very popular). For more information on this master class and the things and tools you will learn from it, please visit http://www.ccbh.org.uk/master-classes/solving-self-esteem-problems
Feel how you think…
The way in which we think is ultimately the way we feel. If we feel good, then our self-esteem, our relationships and our overall happiness all benefit.